Just say no

I have written before on this blog that I have learnt more important stuff from watching Oprahs Super Soul Sunday than all my years in school.

One thing Oprah said on a show particularly stuck in my head:

“Saying no to someone else often means saying yes to yourself!”

This was so powerful to me as I feel I have often compromised what I want to do in favour for what other people want me to do. Saying no would make me feel guilty. I somehow felt responsible for friends and family members and I thought that when saying no to them I would let them down. It never crossed my mind that I could be letting myself down by saying yes to something I didn’t want to do.

So, hearing Oprah point this out really freed me from this way of thinking. Because if you say yes when you “feel” no you are really not doing anyone a favour. You are being dishonest with your feelings and that benefits no one.

I was reminded about everyones right to say NO today when Mastin Kipp (www.thedailylove.com) posted a clip about it: How to say no

He added a new dimension to it for me by saying that: “No, is a complete sentence. It requires no explanation.” Also, for the person who receives the “no” there is an opportunity to grow. If they can’t handle it, then obviously they don’t have your best interest in mind.

So a few years back I started living by this divice and I think my life i so much better for it. Saying no to things you are not “feeling” frees up time for the things that are important to you. I honestly don’t know if I would have been able to launch my business, Bag-all,  if I had continued my old ways as I had som many distractions going on.

My husband bought a t-shirt from HM probably 15 years ago. It had the print:

Be true, No faking it, No regrets

Still love it! And now I fully understand the meaning of it as well.

Körsbarsblomma fixad

 

xox Jen



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